We have a schizoid relationship with gender tropes. On the one hand, "girl power". On the other, "save the women and children".
Schools are a whole other pit of insanity. Most public schools can't enforce behavior norms, which are 90% a result of clueless parents. Their recourse is medicalizing the problem and addressing bad behavior with drugs. With my children we ended up opting to private school because you simply don't have that problem -- they address behavior issues and if it turns out to be a problem that isn't being fixed, the kid doesn't come back.
This is a result of 2008. ~3/5th of school districts are spending less per student today than they were in 2008 [0], and some are just now starting to crawl out of the Great Recession. There just aren't the resources to employ good admins, teachers, social workers, etc. in most of the US.
Schools are a whole other pit of insanity. Most public schools can't enforce behavior norms, which are 90% a result of clueless parents. Their recourse is medicalizing the problem and addressing bad behavior with drugs. With my children we ended up opting to private school because you simply don't have that problem -- they address behavior issues and if it turns out to be a problem that isn't being fixed, the kid doesn't come back.